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Since grade school, we have heard the phrase \u201csafe space\u201d. \u00a0Usually totted in school hallways and then reaching out to public places, whenever people are called to join together to create a community of work, learning, or doing. \u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

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But what exactly is a safe space? \u00a0If we think back to our school days we were told it was a place where everyone would feel comfortable to be themselves. \u00a0Yet, the supports set up to create a safe space don\u2019t quite create an atmosphere for that. Arbitrary statements like \u201cone mic\u201d (ie one person speak at a time), every opinion matters and be nice are an idea for creating these spaces but in reality setting generic understandings of manners and passing them off as a space for people to feel \u201csafe\u201d to be themselves it doesn\u2019t really equate. <\/span><\/p>\n

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It’s a bit presumptuous to say we can create this space for others. \u00a0What we can do though is create a brave space for people to feel comfortable to be themselves. \u00a0\u00a0In studies of brave spaces, the goal is the same but the journey is more supportive. Brave spaces ask people to take steps to understand themselves and others better. \u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

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In the current state of our world, it is critical that we all reach deeper to create spaces of braveness as opposed to a false sense of safety (which only really allow a dominant voice to feel \u201csafe\u201d). \u00a0Check out a few tips below to help you establish a mindset of brave space in your own life. <\/span><\/p>\n

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Seek to understand opposing viewpoints; continue rather than stop the dialogue<\/b><\/p>\n

Ask clarifying questions, or simply say \u2018can you tell me more?\u2019 \u00a0or use \u2018 I hear what you\u2019re saying and\u2019 as opposed to \u2018 but\u2019 to explain your perspective and learn more (as opposed to jumping to conclusions or shutting down.) \u00a0Understanding that this may mean revisiting the topi<\/span><\/i>c at a later date.<\/span><\/p>\n

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Own your intention and your impact<\/b><\/p>\n

At times our intention of something we say or do does not match the impact it had on the other person(s). \u00a0We must own both what we were intending to do and the actual impact it had without defense but through a lens of seeking to understand the perspective<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

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Examine your personal choice to engage in the challenge<\/b><\/p>\n

When you choose to (or not to) engage in a topic ask yourself why. \u00a0Be mindful of the reasons you are choosing to disengage as well as the privileges you might carry that allow you to \u201ctune out\u201d instead of \u201ctune in\u201d<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

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Mindfulness of different ways to demonstrate respect \u00a0to others and self<\/b><\/p>\n

Be aware of what you and others need and how to respect, even if there is differing opinion, can be present.<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

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Acknowledge the discomfort that is usually associated with the challenge to an individual\u2019s belief or thoughts by reflecting on how the challenge may actually threaten the privileges of one\u2019s group membership and the deeper root of defensiveness<\/b><\/p>\n

Instead of shutting down in times of discomfort we focus on reflecting (inwardly\/ outwardly) on defenses we might feel, especially as they relate to the greater connection to the societal oppression of groups of people and our positionality<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

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Accept you cannot control the actions\/reactions of others<\/b><\/p>\n

Especially in times of discomfort, we tend to want to have a sense of control over others actions\/ reactions. \u00a0We must honor each other\u2019s truths and instead lean on seeking to understand and focusing on our own reflection, specifically as to why we want to control<\/span><\/i>
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Since grade school, we have heard the phrase \u201csafe space\u201d. \u00a0Usually totted in school hallways and then reaching out to public places, whenever people are called to join together to create a community of work, learning, or doing. \u00a0\u00a0   But what exactly is a…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":106,"featured_media":63465,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"_seopress_robots_primary_cat":"","_seopress_titles_title":"","_seopress_titles_desc":"","_seopress_robots_index":"","_price":"","_stock":"","_tribe_ticket_header":"","_tribe_default_ticket_provider":"","_tribe_ticket_capacity":"0","_ticket_start_date":"","_ticket_end_date":"","_tribe_ticket_show_description":"","_tribe_ticket_show_not_going":false,"_tribe_ticket_use_global_stock":"","_tribe_ticket_global_stock_level":"","_global_stock_mode":"","_global_stock_cap":"","_tribe_rsvp_for_event":"","_tribe_ticket_going_count":"","_tribe_ticket_not_going_count":"","_tribe_tickets_list":"[]","_tribe_ticket_has_attendee_info_fields":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[68],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-63464","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-social"],"acf":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/wellvyl.com\/media\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/63464","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/wellvyl.com\/media\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/wellvyl.com\/media\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/wellvyl.com\/media\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/106"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/wellvyl.com\/media\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=63464"}],"version-history":[{"count":6,"href":"https:\/\/wellvyl.com\/media\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/63464\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":69789,"href":"https:\/\/wellvyl.com\/media\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/63464\/revisions\/69789"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/wellvyl.com\/media\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/63465"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/wellvyl.com\/media\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=63464"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/wellvyl.com\/media\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=63464"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/wellvyl.com\/media\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=63464"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}