{"id":60035,"date":"2018-06-15T12:17:02","date_gmt":"2018-06-15T16:17:02","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/wellvyl.com\/?p=60035"},"modified":"2020-06-09T07:57:11","modified_gmt":"2020-06-09T07:57:11","slug":"is-cheating-healthy","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/wellvyl.com\/media\/is-cheating-healthy\/","title":{"rendered":"CAN CHEATING BE HEALTHY?"},"content":{"rendered":"

The honeymoon period in relationships are very euphoric. When you initially begin to get to know a partner, everyone puts their best foot forward. You try new things, some that you normally would not. You are exploring the pleasures of the other person. It is a high like no other. However, after the first 6 months of a relationship, those feelings may begin to fade. Feelings begin to wander. People begin to cheat. Can this behavior pattern be healthy?<\/span><\/p>\n

There is a possibility that cheating can be healthy depending on who you ask, what country they are from, their sexual orientation, and their background, childhood, etc. There does not seem to be a finite yes or no answer. Emotions are never truly black-and-white; however, this question based on many different factors tends to fall in the gray area.<\/span><\/p>\n

\"Cheating\"<\/a><\/h2>\n

According to the Atlantic\u2019s article, \u201c<\/span>Why Happy People Cheat<\/span><\/a>\u201d by Esther Perel, We used to get married and have sex for the first time. Now we get married and stop having sex with others. The conscious choice we make to rein in our sexual freedom is a testament to the seriousness of our commitment.\u201d The question to explore from Perel\u2019s perspective is: Are our desires for other supposed to miraculously disappear at the the power of attraction in regards to our unique significant other?<\/span><\/p>\n

What is Cheating?<\/strong><\/em><\/h2>\n

Before we can answer this ever-evolving question, ask yourself, what do you consider cheating? Cheating may be stepping out on your partner, lying to your partner, or not emotionally investing your time into your relationship. Many Americans focus on the consequence of cheating, ie; their partner finding out as opposed to their own reasoning or emotional state. <\/span><\/p>\n

According to Raya (names have been changed), \u201cCheating implies lack of consent. But having secondary partners in a consensual manner can totally be healthy.\u201d Communication relationships are important whether it be positive or negative. Being open and honest is the foundation to what keeps people together. <\/span><\/p>\n

Micro cheating according to<\/span> Sofia Barrett-Ibarra of Men\u2019s Health<\/span><\/a> describes the term as \u201ca wide range of actions and behaviors that aren\u2019t egregious enough to qualify as cheating but are definitely a little bit shady nonetheless.\u201d Do you send your coworker or colleague \u201ccute memes?\u201d Have you text a emojis that hint at desire to a past fling or friend?<\/span><\/p>\n

Marriage is not what it used to be. Technology is not what it used to be. Due to the changes in relationships and the increasing value upon women\u2019s rights and equality, monogamous relationships are becoming difficult to maintain. <\/span><\/p>\n

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Why Cheat?<\/i><\/b><\/h2>\n

Based on a study from the<\/span> American Sociological Association<\/span><\/a>, a person who is completely economically dependent on their spouse is more likely to be unfaithful. The housewife and gardener trope continues to live on; however, there are many other reasons. <\/span><\/p>\n

A Facebook friend who asked to be anonymous shared the following, \u201cI think I would be happier in an open relationship situation, but I happen to be in love with someone who doesn’t want that. So I have over the years developed a secrecy that I don’t think is great for our bond, but it also helps me cope and brings me solace in certain ways.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

Before you begin to judge and make assumptions, the friend also stated, \u201cOf course. I do tend to think that cheating is an indicator that something is not right in a relationship- though that’s not always true.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

Another Facebook friend gave some important insight into the question as well. \u201cOverall I feel that morality, when it is not physically harming another being, is subjective. Emotional harm is harder to call ‘right or wrong’ because what harms one emotionally may not harm the other emotionally. So how can one label it right or wrong or positive or negative. The word ‘cheating’ itself is a negative term, so society has said it’s negative, when it’s technically not a physical harm.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

Testimonies<\/strong><\/em><\/h2>\n

When polled, can relationships be healthy, I received comments from:<\/span><\/p>\n