HUMAN CONNECTION IN A FAST-PACED WORLD
Staying Connected in a Fast-Paced World
Ferris Bluer said it best, “life moves pretty fast, if you don’t stop and look around once in a while you could miss it.” Although I am sure this quote was applicable during the ’80s when Ferris took his iconic day off, nowadays in the world of social media and worldwide connection, we can all quickly get lost in the hustle and bustle of striving to our personal goals amongst “to-dos and routine of life. Lately, I have felt a tugging to revisit my relationships and priorities. I am a full-time working Mom with a full-time entrepreneur heart, mind and soul and an ambition list that’s running wild. In the current speed of life, I have been contemplating what it really means to live a life of prioritization in order to be truly connected and have space for the people that are true friends. If you feel like you’re in a similar space check out these tips below.
Make time for YOU
Ferris had a lot on his plate so what did he do? Took a day to “be sick” (we call them self care days) and really saw life. He cultivated a deeper connection with his best bud and crush and reconnected with himself. I used to be a coach for new educators and one of the first pieces of advice I would give them was to be mindful about where and how they were spending their energy to keep themselves filled. This begins by filing yourself first. We’ve all heard this in one shape or form. You can’t give to others if you have nothing for yourself. So what do you have? Take time to do something that replenishes you. It doesn’t have to be long or super complex, it could be a nightly ritual of getting ready for sleep or a routine massage. Whatever you need to fill yourself so you can be present is a must.
Get intentional about time with friends
What’s your definition of a friend? If you ask many people how many real friends they had it would likely be able to be counted on one or two hands. Who are the people in your life that are you “ride or dies”? The people who you could show up on their doorstep with only the clothes on your back and feel the safety and comfort that they got you? These people are your friends. We all have a lot of acquaintances, people we chill and have a good time with, like-minded people we grow with, etc. Those networks and relationships are important and should be cultivated. They help us across a broader society make meaning, grow and build a better future and we shouldn’t discount that. But we must get intentional about the circle of friends we have and make efforts to prioritize time with them. (PS Wanna know my definition of a friend. Check out Beyonce’s FRIENDS song on The Carters album)
Want an idea?
My friend who is one of the busiest women I know schedules monthly get-togethers. It was her goal to ensure she was cultivating relationships with her close friends (we are all super busy) so she was open and intentional. Now we have monthly dinners that allow us to catch up and stay connected.
Be Mindful of Energy Matching
Every had a friend that is just draining? You have a fun time together at first but then you start to notice the little things that bring your energy down? Maybe it’s time to reassess the depth that friendship should be for you. People at times are in your life for a season. If the season is over it’s ok to thank it for what it was and then release to make room for another. (Now let me be clear, this is not to say that you should not be friend with people who think differently or have a different approach to life than you. Some of the best relationships can come from the difference of thought.)